Unfortunately, we also got some "hate mail" from a few people that think "enough is enough" and offerred suggestions for birth control/sterilization.
I will admit that the negative comments really hurt me. I was pissed and was planning to write a blog to defend our decision for a large family but decided that really it's no one's business why we chose to have 5 kids.
I do, however, feel that it is necessary to explain WHY negative comments about my pregnancy is hurtful. I think people form opinions and make comments without really thinking about what they are saying. There's a small majority of people that can't understand why Remie and I would choose to have a house full of children. It's ok to not understand our decisions but please be respectful when you are making your opinion known.
I don't think people realize that when they make comments like "OMG why would you want another??!!" that they are referring to my child, my precious baby that is growing inside of me. We are not talking about my collection of Willow Woods figurines, our gun collection or even my collection of Holiday Barbies. Remie and I are not "adding to our collection" by having a 5th baby. God has given us 5 wonderful gifts that fill our hearts with love, our house with laughter and fulfil our lives.
So please, whenever you are talking to a pregnant woman, remember that she's not giving birth to a "weird obsession" but giving life to another human being that has the ability to change the world. Be sensitive and open to understand that our decisions about family size may differ but it doesn't mean that either of us is wrong and it doesn't give us the right to judge each other.
2 comments:
HOT Stuff,
what a BEAUTIFUL post, and I just LOVE it. I can relate a bit. I have a cousin and he and his wife have more than five kids. They were and are mocked and ridiculed, but it is their decision, and I know they did what they did because they felt it was what the Lord wanted them to do. And they made the decisions responsibly.
I admire you and Remie, and I only wish I had someone special to have children with. That is why I am a host parent. Since I have never been married, in a relationship, let alone really even dated anyone, this is what I am doing. People make fun of me, since I am single, and don't "need" to have kids, but it is a longing that the Lord put in my heart, and I am hopefully fulfilling a greater purpose in His design at the same time.
Blessings to you.
Love,
Good Lookin'
Thanks Scott! That really means a lot! And I hope that one day God gives you the desires of your heart and you find love and have many children!
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